khatru

Actually, I did a few things.

After I woke for the third time from dreaming about how various exes could have alternately broken up with me (from the way they did) I decided I didn't want to dream about that anymore and stayed up. This was the first time in 3-5 days I didn't wake up with a headache, tho, so yay! (?)

I poked at email on my tablet while collecting and eating breakfastish, culling kickstarter messages and triaging other things for desktop, till I realized the app on my tablet was showing them to me weirdly. At which point I started actively poking at the bills that I'd gathered into one place while I waited for my teakettle to boil and such. There's some collecting and sorting and recording that I did while...

I listened to my voicemail (gasp!). Someone from the mail-order specialty-pharmacy called back(1) and told me that my long-term anti-hive shot has a copay-relief program, and gave me the phone number to call to enroll, after which I should call them and give them the information.

So I did that, and enrolled, and vaguely listened to Terms and Conditions, which I no longer remember but I was listening closely enough to pick up that this can be retroactive for 120 days. When I had the person again, I confirmed that information. Now, toward the end of last year, I'd made my out-of-pocket expenses and wasn't paying for anything (yay?) so I've only been paying for the shot again since January.

I then called the M-O S-P and gave them the info, and told them about retroactive, and the person I was talking to kicked it up to the 'figure this out' staff. Woo!

I also texted my financial guy about how much money is currently in the brokerage account. He called back, and we discussed moving money so I can pay bills. He will move money into it so I can pay bills for a couple of months, and also move some money into the grocery-and-eat-out-and-copays account, which is VERY significantly down, because I should have had disability all-fucking-ready goddammit.

And then I wrote out checks for all the bills currently in hand, total of 9. (Still waiting for 2, but most of the rest have first-of-month due-dates.)

I had stew for dinner (THank you, Eldest!) and spent the rest of the night poking at WaPo and email instead of doing something relaxing. Which has also made my thumb hurt, combined with writing out checks. *sigh* My thumb hurts enough now that hitting the spacebar is being a problem, so I'm gonna get off the desktop and either read a book or possibly poke at random games on my phone.

(1) Yesterday, I decided to answer an unexpected phone call from the Mail Order Specialty Pharmacy that I am forced to use because my insurance won't pay for some drugs any other way. This one being $300-$500 per shot (depending on the exact dose), I growl but succumb. They wanted to schedule the next delivery of the shot to my doctor, which isn't due for 3+ weeks but whatevs. I didn't get the robot phone call till 7pm or so, and when it asked if I wanted to order it then, I said sure. I was sort of bemused by the actual person who came on the line, who was clearly, desperately, following a script, including telling me they were going to call my doctor to schedule the delivery, could I please hold on, and were then somewhat flustered when I told them it was 7pm and the doctor was not there. They called anyway, and wow, the doctor wasn't there! So today I got a callback before I woke up, informing me they'd confirmed the delivery, and about the copay-relief program. Yay! I will only pay $5 now instead of $70. That's a sushi take-out for 3!

Today, I:

• Called COBRA Management company, to get my account details since I had misplaced the piece of paper I had written them on. I was told that the only record of me in the system was as his dependent, that he is listed as 'terminated' and not 'deceased', and this is incorrect and must be dealt with. I took a case number, and left them to deal.
  
• Emailed Otter's HR to tell them of this, and that something is very confused.
  
• Was told by R what the details of the account were, and successfully got into the COBRA management company's benefits account to continue to elect COBRA for my health insurance. Only to find that, having listed Spouse&Child as needing insurance, I *must* include the Primary Plan Participant in the insurance, and that doing so has the wrong number of people being insured. Apparently because Otter is NOT listed as deceased, things are SERIOUSLY upgefukt.
  
• Called COBRA management company again and confirmed that yes, this is the reason it is all upgefukt, and they need to talk to Otter's employer and get things straightened out, and that it will take 3-5 business days, as it always does. Oh, and that another company will be the COBRA management company on April 2nd. Yes, I know, I called them 2 days ago and they said to complete the coverage with you folks.
  
• Screamed for about 2 minutes straight, and then took many deep breaths.
  
• Spent time trying to figure out who has our tax info from the cryptic note left by Otter on his computer for me. Even accounting for his atrocious spelling, I can't find anyone with any name anything like the names he wrote down that has ever heard of him, or our 6+ years of unfiled taxes.
  
• Spoke with R about the various research projects I'd given her: our food spending is consistent on a monthly basis so we can work on that number as our budget; the post card from our local mazda dealer talking about a recall doesn't have one that is dangerous that we seem to be affected by; the insurance company that was dealing with the tree that came down on our roof had gotten back to her about when the check was cashed, cleared, and other identifying information, and that information was not found in our records.
  
• So I Called up his bank and asked if they could find that information for us, to confirm that it was cashed by him. They said yes, but we'd have to come in person to talk about it.
  
• Went to Otter's bank (where I now have a couple of accounts) and talked to them, and yes, indeed, that check was deposited into his account. Yay. So much for that 2k.
  
• Did some Ingressing while driving around.
  
• Went to BJs with R, doing some price comparing and picking up some pens that I love that are really inconsistent as to where I can find them, and these were 10packs of the matching pen and pencils. In addition to the groceries.
  
• Had pizza for my 4pm food next to Stop & Shop.
  
• Sat in the car while R went into Stop & Shop, because she wasn't going to be long enough for me to get in any cruising for interesting things, and she doesn't like the scent of lilies.
  
• Came home and Called the lawyer in Florida who's taking care of my father's sister's estate. Talked to a person this time!!! But not the lawyer. He's out. But now he's it!
  
• pored over the TIAACREF pension beneficiary form, and grepped through papers failing to find the information for the new IRA for me.
  
• Got called into the kitchen to help R butcher a chicken. (I'd given verbal directions before, but this was eyes on while she wielded the knife.)
  
• Found another set of papers with the account number of the new IRA for me, and used that to fill out the TIAACREF paperwork.
  
• Called TIAACREF help line to figure out some confusing back-and-forthing in the form to fill out. (Mostly my confusion, less their writing, and making sure I understood that really, I didn't have to write anything on 4 pages of this.) (I wrote "DO NOT NEED" on them just to be clear.)
  
• Proudly signed it only to realize that I should not have signed it because it needs a notary and I'm supposed to sign in front of the notary. Fuck.
  
• Put it down to deal with tomorrow because I've been up for 19 hours and I'm done.
  

Not including the other stuff. Done.

Beginning of boring stuff I did post.

• Called FinanceGuy and found out:
  
  • There were, indeed, things I needed to sign inside the envelope I got that I opened, identified was paperwork about the IRA they're setting up, labeled IRA STUFF and put aside for later. Oops.
    
  • The 401k hasn't shown up yet for them, and in fact is most likely going to show up in my mail as a check made out to the IRA fund. So I should be looking for that Real Soon Now.
    
  • Astonishingly enough, he agrees with my intention for the money, that I should clear all bills before putting things away. Woot!
    
  
  He's going to be at my FIL's 90th birthday party this upcoming Saturday. He'll have paperwork for me to sign and I need to be ready to give him a check for however much I'm not using to pay off stuff. This is going to be the *liquid* ish portion of my funds. I've never had this much money before. I don't think my family (parents and up) had equivalent-this much money before.
  
• Called Wells Fargo Mortgage: The Deceased Processing Unit (is this anything like food processing?) had to give me to Customer Service (which I had actually dialed originally, and killed it and called the Deceased Processing Unit instead...) and gave me a number that's good till the 30th. And it's $4+ interest for every day past that. This is not a legally binding number; they can mail, fax, or email a number that would be legally binding. No, they cannot guarantee that if I give them my email they won't use it for advertising purposes. So I have to get a certified check, and send it overnight to a really whacky address to get this done.
  
• While I was waiting on hold, I emailed Otter's HR person to let them know I'd gotten the life insurance check, and ask she had any idea of when I could expect to get anything from the 401k folks.
  
• Called the Credit Union about the home equity loan: They're ok with a personal check. I have the number to be paid off by Friday, and I can walk it in (or spend the money to get it there by Friday).
  
• Called the House Insurance to find out how/what to pay/do now that mortgage is being payed off. It's paid through May, renews June 1. I have #OPTIONS about how to pay, and time to think about it. Yay!
  
• I sent email to the lovely friends who loaned me money for mortgage, and asked them for their accounting of how much I owe them.
  
• I called what will be the new cobra management company (yes, for the insurance I haven't finished filling out the applications for) and found out that they aren't doing any intake, I have to finish the filling out with the current company and let it flow over with the transfer.
  
• And I made out a couple of checks for bills while on hold with all of those, and then R and I went out to do EXTREME BANKING!
  
• Went to local bank and got a certified check (aka cashier's check, aka treasury check) in the amount of "I don't think I've ever sent this much money before" (plus $10 for the service)
  
• Went to local post office and followed the directions of the Lady In Charge to send it overnight. It should be there by noon on the 27th. That will be $24.07, thank you very much.
  
• On a roll, we drove over to Busch Campus to pay off the home equity loan we had at the credit union. This took a while, since it was about 2:30-3pm as we went, and school was letting out all over the place.
  
• To celebrate the hemorrhage of "I haven't ever spent this much money in one day" we ... spent more money, and had a treat at Thomas Sweet's (excellent store-made ice cream).
  
• We discussed dinner on the way home, and decided that sushi was far more interesting than leftovers, and that it was the better part of valor to order in than eat at a restaurant. I had another errand vaguely in mind, but decided to let it slip.
  
• Called the oil company to find out why they were trying to charge the oil delivery to our credit card when I had arranged in January that they would no longer do that. Apparently that information never made it into our file, and hopefull will now be in our file.
  
• Between getting home and ordering dinner, I wrote out more checks for bills for normal amounts of money, and succumbed to the demands of the cat so lonely because no one ever pets her to be a mattress.
  
• After we ordered dinner, I called Otter's insurance company, following up on the call I made on March 5th about getting the claims adjustment check re-issued in my name. Turns out there's a note, saying they called on 3/6 and left a message. Apparently they called the house phone, and I don't know who they left a message with. I found out that I need to send them a copy of the surrogate's affidavit naming me It, and got the address to send it to. Again, this took a while of me being on hold for this to be figured out.
  
• Ate delicious sashimi from a new place. I'm not sure it was any less expensive than going to a restaurant would have been. :/
  
• Called the insurance company from 5 years ago to talk to them about getting another check reissued (that we'd just found this past weekend, which had been reissued Sept 28, 2017 and was good for 6 months, with no indication of when the original check had been inssued). This took over an hour of talking with someone (who at first couldn't find a record of the check in their system...) and being on hold, and talking to them, and being on hold... and eventually they decided that I could sign a HIPAA release that would give me the right to see his information, and that would give me the right to get the check in my name. (Does anyone else see the circularity of the logic here?) They emailed me the form, I printed it out, filled it out, and in the process found that I needed to give them ... a copy of the death cert and the surrogate's affidavit. *headdesk* Soooo, I included those also.
  
• There was something else I did, but I forgot.
  

( all the stuff for the future that's nearly the same in every post )

I've been up and down out of bed since my last post, but only for a few hours at a time. Today, my head is still just as stuffed up and drippy, but for the first time in a week I don't feel completely miserable and bogged down with it.

Among hte mail I got last month that I don't recall if I mentioned here was one from what's claiming to be an attorney for my (deceased) father's youngest sister. It says she deceased in August, and there's some property she held title to with my grandmother. They'd like to sell it, but they need permission from everyone who might have interest. I would inherit 1/10th of the value of the piece of property. (1/2 was my grandmother, who had 5 children; as the only inheritor of one of her children, I would get the 1/5 that was my dad's part, which is 1/10 of the whole). No clue who my aunt's primary beneficiary is. Lucky them. I had called and given them my phone number and email; they called once and left a message, and back and left one. Today, they called and when I picked up I couldn't hear anyone. So I said that, and hung up.

I came downstairs and stared at the pile of stuff in front of my seat. Some mail (one bill), mostly bullshit. One letter from the old health insurance company, saying that there's Yet Another Check that didn't get cashed. So I called the Dead Aunt's Lawyers and left another message, and then called the health insurance. Now, the last check I recieved was made out to Otter, and the bank cashed it for me into the Estate account with the comment that they REALLY want any more checks made out to me somehow.

So when I got someone on the phone (after a surprisingly short wait), I said that. And the person put me on hold while they went and checked with their manager. And came back eventually, and said they were sorry, manager was trying to find out how to do this, and I said ok, put me on hold again.

This went on, checking on me, asking a question, putting me on hold, for 52 minutes before they decided they couldn't deal with it now, could they please have a callback number. Just... shaking my head. I *can't* be the only person that's ever had this problem. It's really that difficult? Ask me for paperwork, or make it out to the estate of. That's what that account is for.

So now I'm back to trying to figure out what days to do the work of paying bills, given when they come in and when they're due, and filling out the forms for the TIAA-CREF pension plan.

Still no sign of life insurance money. R sold some old pokemon cards, got a shitload of money, which helped the bank account. Otherwise nothing. I have her on the task of trying to sell my old magic cards, but that's relatively low priority.

wheee.

So far today:

• Called life insurance person direct, left message with my name, Otter's name, claim number, my cellphone number, and the fact that I called a couple of weeks ago and haven't ever heard back.
  
• Called Abby and made arrangements about the chocolate party
  
• Called Specialty Pharmacy, returning their fucking annoying automated call. And, just like on the 9th (which they have records of me calling), I *again* had to give them permission to send the med, and apparently the $60 copay is *every month* until max out of pocket. Which I don't recall it being, but Otter handled it cause it was his insurance etc, and I just don't know for sure.
  
• Called PSEG wrt lack of return envelope. Customer Service Rep has no clue why there was no envelope, as far as they know there's no program about asking to not get envelopes, and they made a note to make sure for my bill to have envelopes again. Would that everything were this easy.
  
• Called Oil Company - overage mentioned on receipt received 20180119 is actually all paid up.
  
• Called Verizon and fought my way through the voice menu to a person, where I talked about how the person who moved the account over from my deceased husband's name had said that I should call and ask to be put back on the 2 year plan to get the lower rates. I was told, this time, that my *discounts* were locked in till 2020, but that I would still be subject to any basic rate increases. They also said that, should that happen, I should call again to find out if I had the lowest prices available, which apparently I currently have.
  
• I had also tried to create a myverizon account, first, to see if I could do it myself without poking the phone monster. It got all the way through the setup process till I got to the 'create account' button, and then failed to react at all. No spinny things, no visible aspect on the browser frame to indicate any sort of processing or transaction. It was like I wasn't clicking the button at all. I turned off my adblockers, and tried again, same effect. So that's when I called the phone menu system to beat it into submission. I mentioned this to the person I got on the line, and they connected me to what I think was called the 'e-troubleshooter'. Who walked me through it twice more, including clearing cache and cookies, to the same result. I actually have a trouble ticket in to the 'devs' to figure it out. I'm betting some combo of linux and firefox and blockers, but we'll see.
  
• Called Water Company to ask about the charges that weren't on the previous bill. I'm wrong, it was on the older bill. Also, account wasn't name-changed, it was complete new account. Person on phone looked at Otter's bill history, and said that most often it was about $55 or less. So whee, I guess I budget 60 for months we go over.
  
• Called life insurance basic help line. Oh, this was special. First, my Claims Consultant is not the person listed on the letter, it's someone else. I now have their first name and their extension. Second, they don't know how much the insurance is for. Apparently it depends on Otter's earnings, and his cause of death. Sometimes that REDUCES IT. FMH. Third, of COURSE they don't put the interest information on the brochure about the "security account" that I can put that money into, cause obviously it's going to change on a fucking whim. Now I'm *really* pissed off.
  
• Sent email to Otter's HR person detailing the info in the phone call, and asking them to please clear up whatever issue they are having. Stupid fucking shit.
  
• tbd
  

To Do Tomorrow 20180131

• Call SocSec lawyer and see if she wants to meet (partner of no longer eligible lawyer)
  
• call tax assessor office 9a-3p Barbara 9087692906
  

ToDo SOON!

• Call mike the lawyer about the north bergen house deed.
  
• Find out if I called Meryll Lynch about angus gone, account come to me?
  
• Decide day of month I need to pay bills. (2 days before end of month is not enough time)
  
• Contact EZPass and find out how it was being paid and figure out if I need to do anything with it.
  

To Do Soon

• Cannot do until make payment! Waiting on Life Insurance. Call Mortgage, ask for late fee to be removed.
  
• Fill out forms for 401k
  
• read in detail, evaluate, car/home insurance offer from AAA
  
• Get onto Otter's computer and look for the file he left me.
  
• Deposit checks received (2017-12-22: 1 to date.)
  
• Clear out envelope of Bills Since Death and sort into records, bills, whatever.
  
• Figure out what to do about cpap machines (company emailed back, saying donate or whatever) (in process)
  
• Find out wtf to do about the argument with the insurance and the roof
  
• DO NOT LOSE PRINTED FILLED OUT FORMS BEFORE DEATH CERT SHOWS UP!!!!!

Talk to R about:

Things I need:

• Container specifically for estate stuff. - Catbag?
  
• Container for my paper notes on phone calls.
  
• Container for medical records current year, bills and other
  
• Container for keeping records, current year (current back half of step sorter that R got from Staples)
  
• Container for medical records specifically for past years.
  
• Containers for keeping records for past years, to hold paid bills and record keeping.
  
• Container for tax info papers bundled by year for past years.
  
• Container for my frustration and sanity. (Research ongoing. Last marble was found in dice bag, perhaps something similar?)
  

Today started with me needing to take a migraine pill when my alarm for my 8am pills went off. At some point later, C came up to see if I needed to be awake, at which point I asked for food, please, so I could take the rest of my meds. I came up for air from the migraine around noon, with no food. I managed to get talking enough to ask for eggs, and came downstairs so I was functional for the 1pm call to cancel the trash pickup account.

Which went much easier, once they could get me on the line with someone. Whee.

Now I have to figure out what I can do with this migraine lurking.

• Received phone call and, finally, cancelled the trash pickup company I don't like.
  
• Had R create a receptacle for incoming income tax prep items.
  
• Resolved checkbook and bank (using online statement, go me) As I found back in the day, having spending money and bills come from the same account is dangerous.
  
• Called R down to use the debit card to pay off student loan. Aiieeeeee
  
• Failed, due to the debit card not having enough daily transfer to do so, and my having somehow not gotten the account number when I opened the account. wtf?
  
• Created a box for bills paid to date out of the shipping box for the leather checkbook cover and handbag that I ordered from Oberon Designs. Pretty, but could be better. And yes, expensive, but pretty. C did most of the work.
  
• Created a "done pile" container from a metal mesh phone stand I got from Staples years ago that we found in a pile still in the plastic wrap. (No, I don't know why I bought it, it was circa 2006).
  
• Figured out where to put them where they are both within reach and out of the general way.
  
• Opened recent mail, marked up notations on envelopes, sorted into inbox/record keeping.
  
• Found bank statement from account that student loan money was in, confirmed account number, to be paid. (aaiie, 9500, so much for having some unexpected money.)
  
• R cooked one of the keto recipes I found on the web. As is common so far, I like it, she doesn't. *sigh*
  

OH, and...

On Jan 19, I:

• Went to credit union and brought the home equity loan up to date, and then put enough money in the formerly joint account to pay the HEL monthly for 10 months, and set that up to happen automatically.
  
• Did some Ingress things while on RU campus
  
• Went to the optician and picked up my glasses. Which are driving me crazy, but I'm giving them a week.
  

To Do Tomorrow 20180124

• Call life insurance folks again. And again.
  
• call tax assessor office 9a-3p Barbara 9087692906
  
• Call mike the lawyer about the north bergen house deed.
  
• Find out if I called Meryll Lynch about angus gone, account come to me?
  
• Decide day of month I need to pay bills.
  
• Record received bills into ledger.
  
• Call oil co re payment due listed on receipt for last delivery
  
• Call xolair pharmacy about bill, thought it was going on credit card.
  
• Contact EZPass and find out how it was being paid and figure out if I need to do anything with it.
  

To Do SOON!

• Cannot do until make payment! Waiting on Life Insurance. Call Mortgage, ask for late fee to be removed.
  
• Fill out forms for 401k
  
• Read in detail, and evaluate, life insurance mail from credit union BY JAN 25
  
• read in detail, evaluate, car/home insurance offer from AAA
  
• Get onto Otter's computer and look for the file he left me.
  
• Deposit checks received (2017-12-22: 1 to date.)
  
• Clear out envelope of Bills Since Death and sort into records, bills, whatever.
  
• Figure out what to do about cpap machines (company emailed back, saying donate or whatever) (in process)
  
• Find out wtf to do about the argument with the insurance and the roof
  
• DO NOT LOSE PRINTED FILLED OUT FORMS BEFORE DEATH CERT SHOWS UP!!!!!

Talk to R about:

Things I need:

• Container specifically for estate stuff. - Catbag?
  
• Container for my paper notes on phone calls.
  
• Container for medical records current year, bills and other
  
• Container for keeping records, current year
  
• Container for medical records specifically for past years.
  
• Containers for keeping records for past years, to hold paid bills and record keeping.
  
• Container for tax info papers bundled by year for past years.
  
• Container for my frustration and sanity. (Research ongoing. Last marble was found in dice bag, perhaps something similar?)
  

I did nothing Saturday; woke up late, headache-adjacent. Had C put bengay on the aching parts, and a hotsock. (Similar to http://bedbuddy.net/ but not that brand.) After a few hours (after the bengay was soaked in and not a problem for adhesive) I had him put on a lidocaine patch. Neither of those helped significantly, but it's possible they kept it from being worse.

Woke up earlyish on Sunday, but instead of trying transdermal effects, took one of my hoarded Good Pain Meds. Got to the computer after a bit, poked around on WoW most of the day; ended up falling asleep ZONK in my chair at 6:45, while waiting for the folks who I play with to appear online at 7pm. *sigh* R woke me up for dinner at 7:40, I got on WoW, we played till 10:30 or so. Maybe later. I did wow things for a few hours more, and suddenly woke up, in my chair, covered iwth random pieces of clothing (apparently I was cold, but never woke up) at 7:45 am. Took meds, crawled into bed.

Woke up at 11:30 ish by C, checking if I wanted/needed anything. Asked for food, ate it, eventually decided that I didn't really want to do anything but I also didn't want to sit in my room alone. (which is what I did yesterday, never getting checked on till 4pm or so) Am downstairs.

Received email from life insurance! yay! No information on how much the payout is. An offer of having the money in an interest bearing account wiht the insurance company. No information on how much the interest is. I called the number for my consultant at 2pm, left a message. No response. The packet included a pamphlet about What Beneficiaries Need To Do After The Death Of A Loved One. The first chapter is "in the first two weeks". The second chapter is "weeks 3 and 4". the third chapter is "In hte next month." I'll note that Otter died on Dec 8, and the postmark on the envelope is January 10th. Fuck them.

Having agitated AGAIN for the kids to PLEASE look for the title of the car that was gotten in late November, more likely early December and thus on the day before Otter went into the hospital, I finally got some motion out of them. They found the envelope from the bank that held the car loan, with the old title (with the lien holder on it) and the various papers from the visit to DMV that acquired the new title and the handicapped placards for Otter. Unfortunately, the new title wasn't in it. Also, none of the receipts listed the date of the transaction. (wtf dmv?) So we STILL don't know, for sure, when it was done. *argh*

Aggravation, annoyance, and a chilly house. Wheee.

Note: When you read "I drove", read it as "R drove me there" Also, R did most of the looking for things.

1. got up around noon
2. Ate some food
3. Took my pills (very late, so I didn't take all of them)
4. Called the lawyer to ask for instructions on what to do after I had the death certificate, left a message on his voicemail
5. Called the eyeglass place to see if giving them the basic health insurance info would help them find vision plan info
6. called HR person hoping they could find out, left a message
7. Collected my marriage certificate
8. Took a callback from the eyeglass place saying that they found it, and it's not covered. Chose to continue with appt anyway and pay out of pocket and hope to submit a claim
9. failed to find my checkbook
10. found the next checkbook in sequence
11. Drove up to Summit, NJ
12. found the office to get the death certificate
13. realized I'd left my marriage certificate at home
14. drove back home
15. picked up the marriage certificate
16. drove back to summit nj board of vital statistics
17. got 15 copies of the long form death certificate.

By which time it was 3:14 pm, and there was no way I could get to Elizabeth, NJ in time to find the Surrogate's Court in time to do anything there, assuming I didn't need an appointment to start with. So R & I went to a restaurant in Summit called The Committed Pig and had late lunch there so I could take pills.

Now I'm going up to my room because I woke up in the middle of the night with a headache and took a headache pill, and now I'm going to go take another and hope to not fall over but be prepared to.

And I've not gotten a callback from the lawyer yet.

putting it here means I can access it anywhere. I used todo this back on lj.

Calls I made

• Called vision place and made appointments (Thu 1:15) for C and I, for eye exams and glasses as needed.
  
• Called donation place to ask about death certificate again. Got answering service, left message.
  
• Called trash services. (Republic Services) We received a letter dated Dec 8th that our services were suspended for over-60-day-due bill. Person I talked to claimed not to be able to turn them back on due to computer system refusing it due to over-60-days. At least it's cold out.
  
• Called Plymouth Rock insurance re home/car insurance policies. They were happy to take his name off the policies and put mine on just on my say so over the phone. This seems wrong to me, but I'm not arguing.
  
• Barbara At Plymouth Rock said that I should see if there was life insurance, because that was a thing they did when it was all Prudential. She gave me the number for PruLife, and connected me to a person. Unfortunately, the life insurance policy they have on file lapsed many years ago. *sigh*
  
• Called TIAA-CREF. Received direct phone number for beneficialry svcs: 888-380-6428. (8am-7pm EST M-F) Rcvd PIN to put on subject line of any email. Death Cert needs Cause Of Death filled out. Can scan/email/fax Death Cert, DOES NOT NEED RAISED SEAL. (yay!) Needs Surrogate Cert (or whatever), same as DC, DOES NOT NEED RAISED SEAL. Regardless of delay in receiving DC, should get info by snail mail around Jan 10. (note to self: make note of the pin somewhere else.)
  
• Called PNC Investors to find out why we got mail from them for a 529 acct that doesn't match the known Franklin Templeton account number. Reason: They're weird, it's actually the same account. *facepalm*
  
• Cathy, the PNC person connected me to Franklin Templeton person, who guided me through their website to find the form to print out to change the information.
  

Things still to do:

• Find the original forms re donation that I faxed, and mail them out. (or did I do that? I think I did that... shit.)
  
• Call water company about grace period
  
• call pseg about grace period
  
• call town, make sure sewer is up to date (every 6 months)
  
• call att cell phone about grace period
  
• call verizon about grace period (fios)
  
• Call Mortgage about grace period
  
• call bank america card about grace period
  
• find out what to do about soc sec and death benefits
  
• Print out 529 forms to fill out DONE
  
• Print out 3 sets of 401k files from OpenText to fill out DONE
  
• Fill out forms for 529
  
• Fill out forms for 401k
  
• DO NOT LOSE PRINTED FILLED OUT FORMS BEFORE DEATH CERT SHOWS UP!!!!!

NOTES:

Pay trash services first. Replace with another company? Call https://www.grandsanitation.com/service/north-plainfield/ according to Rachel.