article about emotional labor
Sep. 29th, 2017 07:58 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
khatruActually, at least partially anecdote.
http://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/
I'm lucky, in that Otter doesn't do the "see, I did this and it took X time" as the writer says her husband does. But part of the reason that the house is a disaster is that he doesn't see it. He doesn't notice mess that isn't laundry or dishes.
Which is not to say that I do housecleaning; it's my bane, and one of my secret guilts is that I am *so glad* that my chronic pain issues make it so that I really *can't* do things. "But don't you feel so satisfied that it's done?" Yes, and it completely evaporates and turns to aggravation and hate when I have to do it again and again and again and again. And again. And. Again. This is why, when we got married, we asked the Best Friend who worked in an appliance store for a dish washer. I was FAR LESS STABBY when we got it.
Ok. Stopping venting now. It's old tales, and that's it.
http://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/
I'm lucky, in that Otter doesn't do the "see, I did this and it took X time" as the writer says her husband does. But part of the reason that the house is a disaster is that he doesn't see it. He doesn't notice mess that isn't laundry or dishes.
Which is not to say that I do housecleaning; it's my bane, and one of my secret guilts is that I am *so glad* that my chronic pain issues make it so that I really *can't* do things. "But don't you feel so satisfied that it's done?" Yes, and it completely evaporates and turns to aggravation and hate when I have to do it again and again and again and again. And again. And. Again. This is why, when we got married, we asked the Best Friend who worked in an appliance store for a dish washer. I was FAR LESS STABBY when we got it.
Ok. Stopping venting now. It's old tales, and that's it.
